What Is Your Conversational Style?
HAVE YOU EVER FELT BULLDOZED BY A COWORKER WHO KEEPS PIPING UP DURING A BUSINESS MEETING? OR MAYBE IT’S LIKE PULLING TEETH GETTING YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TO DISCUSS HOW THEIR DAY WAS, EVEN THOUGH YOU ALWAYS SHARE YOUR FEELINGS WITH THEM. IF EITHER OF THOSE SITUATIONS SOUNDS FAMILIAR TO YOU, YOU’VE ENCOUNTERED A DIFFERENCE IN CONVERSATIONAL STYLES.
- 1.A recent event comes up in conversation with some friends but you don't all share the same opinions on it. You would probably:
- A.
Stand up for your beliefs and actively agree with others on your side.
- B.
Listen to all sides and try to find common ground.
- C.
Counter the opposing argument with examples and statistics.
- D.
Explain your perspective by sharing a similar event you personally experienced.
- 2.In the conversation below, why does the husband originally agree to go to the party?
- A.
He figured his wife must want to go since she asked, so he'll go to make her happy.
- B.
He wanted to go when he agreed but was tired by the time she asked later.
- 3.Your roommate hasn't done the dishes even though it's their turn this week. You always do your chores and don't want to get stuck doing theirs, too, so you confront them this way:
- A.
"Hey, it's your turn to wash them this week. Do you want to use my gloves?"
- B.
"I know you've been busy but do you think you'll have a chance to do the dishes tonight?"
- 4.Click on any descriptions that apply to you.
- A.
Some people say I talk too fast.
- B.
I often call people "dude," "hun," or other friendly nicknames.
- C.
I hate being asked to pick the restaurant we go to for dinner.
- D.
Personal accounts aren't as convincing as observable data.
- E.
I enjoy telling a good story.
- F.
I enjoy getting into friendly debates.
- G.
I'd rather be honest than polite.
- H.
I often get talked over in groups.
- I.
I actively listen to other people and jump in when I disagree.
- J.
Sometimes I exaggerate for humor or emotional impact.
- 5.On a first date, you would rather:
- A.
Ask questions.
- B.
Answer questions.
- 6.You feel certain that a person is lying to you but you don't have any proof. You decide:
- A.
Go with your gut and try to find a non-confrontational way to approach them about it.
- B.
that you shouldn't act if you don't have anything to back it up.
- 7.You've heard yourself described as:
- A.
Funny
- B.
Quiet
- C.
Rude
- D.
Honest
- E.
Mysterious
- F.
Sensitive
- G.
Fake
- H.
Upbeat
- I.
Book-smart
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