What Is Your Language?

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What Is Your Language?

Take this quick quiz that helps identify your language of respect, appreciation, gratitude, and apologies. Choose two answers you would like the most from the following options in each question. If you'd like all of them, just choose the ones you'd like if you could only have two.


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    You feel your coworkers respect you when they . . .
    • A. 

      Say "You really do a great job, and I appreciate it."

    • B. 

      Do the things you ask of them around the office without having to ask twice.

    • C. 

      Leave you things like your favorite drink on your desk as a surprise.

    • D. 

      Ask to sit with you and learn from you.

    • E. 

      Sit down and stop talking when you stand up to start a meeting.

  • 2. 
    You feel how much your boss appreciates you when he or she . . .
    • A. 

      Tells you how much he or she appreciates you.

    • B. 

      Volunteers to take over a job for you and encourages you to relax.

    • C. 

      Brings you your favorite snack every Monday.

    • D. 

      Invites you to sit down and talk about your day.

    • E. 

      Gives you a ‘high 5’, or hug even if just passing from one room to another.

  • 3. 
    Which of the following would you like most?
    • A. 

      During a gathering a coworker surprises you by telling someone else about one of your recent successes.

    • B. 

      A coworker surprises you by washing your lunch dishes for you.

    • C. 

      A coworker surprises you with an unexpected card.

    • D. 

      A coworker surprises you with an invitation to go out to lunch.

    • E. 

      A coworker surprises you by shaking your hand or patting you on the back while at a public event.

  • 4. 
    A coworker offended you. Which of the following apologies would be most likely to get you to forgive him or her?
    • A. 

      He or she praises you about one of your special qualities or abilities at lunch the next day in front of your peers and the boss.

    • B. 

      He or she brings you your favorite lunch--they had to drive across town to get it and it took up his or her entire lunch hour.

    • C. 

      He or she surprises you with an inexpensive cell phone case you wanted but couldn't find and didn't know you had mentioned.

    • D. 

      He or she brings you to your favorite restaurant.

    • E. 

      You notice him or her crying at their desk and you know it's because of how bad he or she feels.

  • 5. 
    You did a great job. You like it most when your boss thanks you by . . .
    • A. 

      Inviting you into his or her office to have lunch and talk about something other than work.

    • B. 

      Telling everyone on the team how awesome you are.

    • C. 

      Stopping by your desk to shake your hand and say thank you while other people are around.

    • D. 

      Cleaning you work space for you while you were out.

    • E. 

      Dropping off a hand-made card on your desk with a picture of your pet (or favorite animal) on it, thanking you for a good job.