Do I Have A Savior Complex? Quiz

1. Do you feel the need to change or "fix" some things about your partner?

I notice some things that I want to change about my partner, but nobody's perfect.

Yes, that is one of the reasons why I am with them.

No, I like them the way they are, faults and all.

I can make them better. I firmly believe that.

2. Do you frequently check on them?

Of course, how else can I make sure they are following what I helped them understand or not.

Yes, but it is only because I care for them.

I would not call a general question of well-being as frequent.

No, because they are an adult and can live their life as they want.

3. Do you have any plans for their future?

I have extensive plans for each stage of their life.

I do because I just want to see them happy.

I barely have plans for my own future.

Yes, I do, but only a very basic outline based on where we see ourselves in the future.

4. Do you consider yourself an authority on solving all their problems?

Yes, I can help them better than any professional or expert.

I do not, as I am aware that I have many issues of my own.

No, I myself am undergoing or seeking therapy.

Yes, but only because I know them so well.

5. Do you often find yourself paying for them?

I am financially available for their help but not in an unhealthy manner.

I bankroll them often.

I need to keep them financially afloat, or they would sink into debt.

They are the one who pay for me usually.

6. Do you run their life and organize their schedule more than even themselves?

Yes.

No.

Maybe.

I don't know.

7. Do you work overtime while they sink deeper?

Yes, I find myself overworked.

I make sure to find time for myself.

It is only because I care so much.

No, they work just as much or more than me.

8. What about the spark in your relationship?

I feel our relationship is more like that of a teacher and a child.

No, we are both responsible adults.

The spark is dying out because I am trying to fix their life most of the time.

The spark is a fire in our relationship.

9. Do you blame yourself for their failures and setbacks?

Yes, who else is to blame.

No, I don't think anyone else can be blamed for personal setbacks.

I feel like a parent on report day.

I am there for them, I am not responsible for their failures.

10. Do you measure your happiness based on your ability to help them?

Strongly agree.

Agree.

Disagree.

Strongly disagree.