I always initiate contact, he could go days without calling, texting, etc.
He initiates most of the contact between us.
Contact initiation is evenly split between the two of us.
I initiate contact and it takes him a while to respond.
Contact is consistent.
It takes him days to reply to a text or voicemail.
Contact is only consistent if he’s bored during the week.
Contact becomes sporadic on the weekends only
His responses detailed and indicative of a true conversation.
His responses are brief and aloof.
His responses are generic and could be responses for anything as opposed to specific to the conversation.
He doesn’t respond.
He surprises you with time with him after his other plans get cancelled
He plans activities and schedules time with you.
He never plans anything and always suggest you, “play things by ear”.
You plan all activities and he may or may not engage.
Every activity is a group activity.
Most dates are just the two of us.
Alone time is at my apartment.
There are no public activities.
Every time he calls, it is late at night and he’s always hammered.
He doesn’t drink.
He calls late at night, but he is not drunk.
He only texts when drunk and want to sext.
He never cancels.
He sometimes cancels at the last minute.
He cancels several days in advance.
He always cancels last minute.
Every conversation riddled with excuses as to why he can’t hang out or come over.
He’s open and honest about everything.
Only when the weekend nears does he has several excuses.
We don’t talk enough for him to give me excuses.
You are constantly repeating things to him each time you talk or spend time together.
He takes over the conversation mid-sentence as you speak.
No. He is very attentive and asks pointed questions throughout the conversation.
Hard to tell because we tend to be in places that are crowded and loud.
No, the conversations evenly alternate between he and I both being the central focus.
Every conversation is about him, his interests, his goals, his life, etc.
Every so often we talk about me or his friends.
We don’t talk other than to set up times to meet.