Find Out Your Relationship Hell Archetype Quiz

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Hi Lovely Soul, Relationship hell is the opposite of relationship bliss. If you feel that you are not satisfied with your love life and relationships, you are most likely in your own version of relationship hell! But here's the good part---by admitting that you are in relationship hell, you are already on your way to relationship bliss. Why? By getting real with ourselves about where we are in our lives and through admitting that we are not 100% happy in our relationships, we give ourselves the opportunity to say yes to more of what we want in our lives! This courageous act of acknowledgement allows us to channel our energy toward creating what we want! In other words, through embracin


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    Where do you have the most luck meeting potential partners?
    • A. 

      I am on several dating websites. All of my coupled-up friends are on the look out for me. I like to play it reserved and coy.

    • B. 

      I like meeting people through mutual friends and/or at events that show a common interest. This could be a dinner party at a friend’s house or it could be at someone’s art opening.

    • C. 

      I am too busy to meet anyone! But when I do meet potential partners, it's usually at some social function that is related to work. Happy hour usually works for me, but allocating other time to meet people does not really fit my schedule.

    • D. 

      I like going to nice bars or restaurants during Happy Hour to meet hot successful people!

    • E. 

      I just kind of let them find me. I meet them places but I rarely make it known that I am interested. Sometimes I am not even sure how interested I am in someone. This is why, if nothing seems terribly wrong or off about the other person, I usually say yes when asked on a date.

    • F. 

      I am usually the life of the party and I am instantly noticed. People love approaching me and I love the attention!

  • 2. 
    How do you let your interest in potential partners be known?
    • A. 

      I usually engage them in juicy intellectual conversation---either about the food or about something interesting that I heard on NPR that is related to the subject matter.

    • B. 

      I usually smile a lot and if they talk to me, I ask questions to let them know that I am interested in them.

    • C. 

      If it happens that I find someone I am interested in, I am usually not shy about letting them know I am interested! I usually lead with sex.

    • D. 

      I usually do my best to seem interesting and friendly enough to talk to at an event. I might compliment a person on their clothing to start a conversation.

    • E. 

      I wear my heart on my sleeve so it is often extremely obvious if I am interested!

    • F. 

      I use eye contact and flirty smiles and my great looks. I usually ask the other person in a really coy way to buy me a drink and they usually say yes!

  • 3. 
    How do you spend your time with people you are dating or in a romantic relationship  with?
    • A. 

      I usually just kind of do whatever they really like doing. I am not too picky as long we are having fun and enjoying each other’s company.

    • B. 

      That is kind of the issue. There is never enough time. My work is my top priority. Meeting for happy hour works. Having a nice dinner usually works. I enjoy having sexual relationships where I can enjoy the other person on my terms and within my schedule!

    • C. 

      I love engaging in intellectual, educational, and cultural pursuits.

    • D. 

      I like going to really nice places where I get to take plenty of time to make myself look perfect for the occasion.

    • E. 

      I am often very agreeable and pleasant about places we can go together and the people we can meet. I am great at blending in and adapting to different situations. I am pretty open that way.

    • F. 

      We usually like doing something fun together, whether this is an amusement park, concert, dinner at an ethnic restaurant, or a cool film premiere, I am down for fun and people and excitement and I love hanging out with people who are into that sort of thing too!

  • 4. 
    What is your idea of a 10++ knock-your-socks-off date?
    • A. 

      Having tons of fun and adventure! It is always fun to EXPERIENCE life with someone else doing something new and exciting!

    • B. 

      I would love to go volunteer somewhere during the day and then go to a nice dinner and attend an interesting and educational event that evening. That way, we will have something to talk about.

    • C. 

      I would love to be flown out of town on a very handsome, wealthy, and successful person’s private jet for a weekend getaway and stay at the nicest hotels and eat the nicest meals! I also want to make sure there is a gym and spa treatments available on this trip too!

    • D. 

      Delicious food and great conversation usually does it for me. Going to a lecture and then for drinks after it sounds great too.

    • E. 

      I guess taking a vacation away from everything to some island without Internet access would be ideal - like that will ever happen!

    • F. 

      I love romance. If they were to put a lot of thought into making me dinner and lighting candles, I would be in date heaven.

  • 5. 
    What is your ideal partner like?
    • A. 

      This person is well educated and very intelligent and uses reasons as the foundation of their decisions. This person is not flakey or prone to diva-ism.

    • B. 

      This person is very generous and thoughtful and does things for me without me needing to ask for anything. This person encourages me to pamper myself and compliments me and expresses appreciation and gratitude for me.

    • C. 

      This person is interesting and has strong interests and enjoys having me tag along.

    • D. 

      This person is generous and buys me nice things and appreciates my efforts to stay fit and pretty!

    • E. 

      This person knows what they want and is not afraid to get it. I admire that masculine-energy “take no prisoners” approach.

    • F. 

      This person understands my needs for freedom, action, and adventure. This person gets that I am full of life and understands that I not a traditional person and does not try to tie me down!

  • 6. 
    How do you feel about matchmaking?
    • A. 

      Absolutely not. No one knows what I want better than I know what I might. Only after I am absolutely certain that the person meets my on-paper criteria will I go out on a date with them. My friends know this about me.

    • B. 

      I like being set up because I always figure the match-maker, whether it is friends or a website, knows that we have similar interests. Either way, it is a way for me to meet more people and share a meal with someone.

    • C. 

      If the person I am being set up with is hot and wealthy and nice, I am interested!

    • D. 

      I see how it serves a purpose. I am into it if it is organic. For instance, if we are meeting at someone’s home with plenty of interesting things to discuss, I am OK with it.

    • E. 

      I am open to it! I mean the more people in my life equals the more friends I get to make and the more fun experiences I get to have!

    • F. 

      It works for me as I am open and adaptable.

  • 7. 
    What is your standpoint on one-night-stands?   
    • A. 

      I am not very interested in having those. Too many things could go wrong and then I would risk never hearing from the person again.

    • B. 

      They usually make great stories!

    • C. 

      I do not like giving it away for free!

    • D. 

      They are sometimes necessary for dry spells.

    • E. 

      They allow me sex with the flexibility of not really having to do anything differently. They work for me!

    • F. 

      I often hope that they turn into something more.

  • 8. 
    How do you view long term relationships?
    • A. 

      I am a wonderful and committed partner as long as all of my needs are being met. I want to be a wealthy housewife who gets to spend time exercising and doing charity events for my community. I am a lady of luxury and if my partner provides that for me, I am the most doting partner ever!

    • B. 

      They are great for most people but not really for me. I want one because it would be nice to love and trust someone enough to just relax with and have adventures with but really...it seems like a nice abstract idea that I want but that I do not even think exists on my terms.

    • C. 

      I love them, but I find that sometimes I can get too focused on the other person and become resentful when it is not reciprocated.

    • D. 

      It is easier to be in a long-term relationship that to be in that limbo of dating. There is something comforting about being with someone who completely understands you.

    • E. 

      They work for me up until a point. I mean I want a long-term realtionship and I am good at being in them but I have yet to find a partner who truly appreciates me.

    • F. 

      It would do wonders for my self esteem to have a partner who loved me and offered me ways to do fun things with them.

  • 9. 
    What is the usual state of your home?
    • A. 

      It is pretty comfortable and contains things that I enjoy and like using. It is the combination of utilitarian and beautiful.

    • B. 

      I need to know where everything is at all times even it's messy. I generally have more important things to do than clean my place. It all gets done when it needs to. I am not opposed to hiring someone.

    • C. 

      I keep it well organized enough, but I am constantly feeling bad about it not being as great as I would like it. It is sometimes hard to juggle everything.

    • D. 

      It is a mess! I have clothes everywhere. I need to do some laundry. Thank goodness I clean up when I know I have company that I want to impress. I always let them know that too!

    • E. 

      It is very organized, clean, and tidy.

    • F. 

      I know where everything is kept and I have a pretty good system of organization. I look forward to never having to do the dishes again!

  • 10. 
    How are you about asking for help?
    • A. 

      Asking for help is very hard for me. I like being able to handle everything and when I ask for help, it is often when I am drained and physically exhausted.

    • B. 

      I can ask for assistance...not really seeing the significance of this question.

    • C. 

      Am I asking for help or am I demanding that someone do their job?

    • D. 

      It is hard for me to admit that I need extra support in doing something. I do not want to seem weak.

    • E. 

      If I feel like I cannot do something on my own, I always enlist help!

    • F. 

      It is very hard for me to ask for help. This is why I usually focus a lot on other peoples' needs. If I have been helping others and if it is not reciprocated, the other person better watch out! They might have a tantrum on their hands!

  • 11. 
    When someone asks you where you want to go for lunch, how do you respond?
    • A. 

      I usually connect with what I am “feeling” like experiecing or enjoying in that moment. Then, I ask the other person or people if they are vibing with the same thing! I am not into boring food though - that is for sure!

    • B. 

      I totally OK with going wherever the group or other person wants to go. I am good with different types of food.

    • C. 

      I whine if a restaurant is suggested with food that I do not like. I am very particular about what I will and will not eat and I will let my disgust be known if it is not to my liking.

    • D. 

      I usually have lots of information on the surrounding restaurants and I am happy to supply others with the information to make an educated choice on lunch.

    • E. 

      I tell them where we are going! I even change already made plans!

    • F. 

      I usually ask them where they would like to go or what sounds good to them. I do this because I like it when people are happy and I can find something that works for me anywhere.

  • 12. 
    What are you like when you are dating?
    • A. 

      I am usually pretty tentative. I do not want to make a mistake. I would risk them thinking I was stupid or not worthy enough to date them.

    • B. 

      I am always very tidy and put-together. I ask for what I want and I always say thank you.

    • C. 

      I am fun-loving until I get my feelings hurt. Then, I might throw a tantrum and cry. But I usually apologize for my emotional outbursts and usually, the other person finds it endearing and cute...and maybe a little unstable and scary too.

    • D. 

      I keep to my schedule and my work commitments and I expect the person I am dating to do the same. If I really like someone, I make sure to schedule time with them in my calendar and keep to it as best I can. I like to enjoy drinks and sex after a project is complete.

    • E. 

      I usually spend time observing the other person and doing activities that they like at the beginning. Then as I start to connect and establish trust, I like to bring my interests into it. If they are not receptive to what I like to do, I often feel like I have to push it aside and sometimes I get resentful about it.

    • F. 

      I am pretty chilled out. I like doing things that I like with someone I find attractive and interesting. I provide good conversation and I am easy to be around.

  • 13. 
     What is the feedback you have received from the bulk of relationships?
    • A. 

      Sometimes I have been told that I do not do enough for them. This always bothers me.

    • B. 

      Either I do not give enough time or we are both too busy to even continue. I sometimes get accused of not being nurturing enough! I am no one’s mom!

    • C. 

      I have been called a gold digger before...It kind of hurt but I deserve the best!

    • D. 

      I have been called boring.

    • E. 

      I have heard that I am a drama queen - which drives me nuts because I am simply expressing myself!

    • F. 

      I have heard that I lacked emotional connection.

  • 14. 
    When you are in a relationship, what is the focus?
    • A. 

      Doing things together and hanging out...again, not sure what this really signifies.

    • B. 

      I like to read up on my partner’s interests so that I am interesting.

    • C. 

      I am very focused on how I am feeling. If it feels good, I am in 100%. If I do not feel right, I let it be known! Then I wait for the other person to respond to me with how they feel about it too!

    • D. 

      I always focus on pleasing the other person and making sure that their needs are met.

    • E. 

      The focus is on making sure our relationship does not interfere with my capacity to make money!

    • F. 

      I focus on making sure that both of us are happy and that I look great and have everything I need to make my partner happy!

  • 15. 
    What is the least attractive thing about a person you are dating or in relationship with?  
    • A. 

      Stingy people that I am dating drive me crazy!

    • B. 

      I am tired of dating emotionally unavailable people!

    • C. 

      I usually date people who take and take and take from me.

    • D. 

      I am not usually into people who are really into themselves or cannot control their emotions.

    • E. 

      I have not really thought about that...I guess people who do not know what they want and have trouble making decisions.

    • F. 

      Self absorbed and not much of a connection.

  • 16. 
    What are the most attractive qualities in a person (either hypothetical or not) who you are dating or with whom you are in relationship?
    • A. 

      They are generous and appreciate me.

    • B. 

      They are ambitious and know how to get the job done - on all levels!

    • C. 

      I like people who are well-educated, interesting, genuine, and reasonable. I am attracted to people who are more of the low-key artist type of person who is in control of their emotions. Might sound like an anomaly but that is what I like!

    • D. 

      I like a person who takes excellent care of their body and wears nice clothing. This shows me that they have respect for themselves and for me. It also shows that they know exactly what they want and makes sure that they get it. It is sexy that they know they are worth it!

    • E. 

      I find it attractive when a person is open to trying new things and drama-free!

    • F. 

      I like it when the person is passionate, self expressed, and honors their dreams! It is seriously the sexiest thing!

  • 17. 
    How do you respond to issues in a relationship?
    • A. 

      I will cry and cry loudly and express my sadness and go into self loathing or I lash out at the other person. It depends on how I feel.

    • B. 

      I listen and try to change whatever I am doing that is not working for my partner.

    • C. 

      I usually wonder if I need to be prettier or more enticing to keep my partner’s interest or I go in the complete other direction and tell them that they are not good enough for me!

    • D. 

      I try to listen and talk it out, but if someone comes at me with a lot of emotion, I usually shut down and try to exit the situation.

    • E. 

      If they have a problem with me, they know where to find the door. And if I am not happy, I know how to leave too!

    • F. 

      I usually listen to the other person and I make them feel better. If I feel like there is nothing more I can give to make the relationship better, I often feel resentful or bitter.

  • 18. 
    How much time to need to yourself?
    • A. 

      I do not have time to think about such things!

    • B. 

      I really do not need that much time to myself, however I do need to spend more time on doing things for myself such as getting my hair done or getting a massage or pedicure.

    • C. 

      I need plenty of time to make sure that I am pampered, fit, and looking good! I also need my beauty rest!

    • D. 

      Having time alone allows me the space and time to stay sane and balanced.

    • E. 

      I like having time to artistically and creatively connect with my feelings. Time alone for good cries are very therapeutic and cleansing for me!

    • F. 

      I have not really thought about it...I like being around people.