Relationship Assessment

31 Questions
Assessment Quizzes & Trivia

We've all seen the dating service ads for singles looking to meet Mr. Or Ms. Right, but what about the people who are already in a relationship and just don't know if it will last? Take the Relationship Assessment Test to determine if your current relationship is one to keep, one that needs work, or one to get away from.

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Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    Have you or your partner ever had an affair?
    • A. 

      Yes-I have

    • B. 

      Yes-He has

    • C. 

      Yes-We both have

    • D. 

      No

  • 2. 
    When was the last time your partner did your favorite romantic thing or you did theirs for them?
    • A. 

      Within the last month

    • B. 

      A few months ago

    • C. 

      Sometime in the last year

    • D. 

      Can't remember

  • 3. 
    Do you like to have more personal/alone time than your partner?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      No

    • C. 

      My partner likes more time alone than I do

  • 4. 
    Does it hurt your partner's feelings if you tell them you would rather do something without them (either something alone or with a friend)?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      Somewhat

    • C. 

      No

    • D. 

      No, but it would hurt my feelings if my partner did that

  • 5. 
    Do you and your partner have an equal say in your finances?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      No

  • 6. 
    Does your partner ever spend money or use credit after you both have agreed not to do so?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      No

  • 7. 
    Do you feel like you have to ask permission from your partner to do things or spend money?
    • A. 

      Yes to both

    • B. 

      No to both

    • C. 

      Yes to doing things but not spending money

    • D. 

      Yes to spending money but not doing things

  • 8. 
    Do you and/or your partner have a substance abuse problem that is not receiving treatment?
    • A. 

      Yes-Both of us

    • B. 

      Yes-I do

    • C. 

      Yes-My partner does

    • D. 

      No-Neither of us

  • 9. 
    If someone was flirting with you at work, what would you do?
    • A. 

      Discourage co-worker and tell partner

    • B. 

      Discourage co-worker and not tell partner

    • C. 

      Keep it a secret and see where it leads

    • D. 

      Keep it a secret and encourage flirtation

  • 10. 
    When you express your feelings, what is your partner's usual reaction?
    • A. 

      Understanding and reassurance

    • B. 

      Disagreement and defensive

    • C. 

      Can't wait to get back to the TV

    • D. 

      Considers them "your problems"

    • E. 

      Turns the table and explains how their problems are worse

  • 11. 
    If you could have known everything you know now at the start of your relationship, would you have started the relationship?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      Yes, but I would try to change certain things about my partner

    • C. 

      No

    • D. 

      I'm not sure

  • 12. 
    Excluding children, can you think of at least 5 things you have in common with your partner?
    • A. 

      Yes-A lot more than 5!

    • B. 

      Yes-About 5

    • C. 

      I don't think so

    • D. 

      No

    • E. 

      I don't think we have anything in common

  • 13. 
    When your partner is out of town, do you enjoy their absence?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      No-I miss them the whole time

    • C. 

      For a couple days, then I miss them

    • D. 

      Yes-I wish they would travel more

  • 14. 
    When you read an article or think of a way to enhance your sex life, what is your partner's reaction?
    • A. 

      All for it and ready to try

    • B. 

      Not interested

    • C. 

      Might try it once but makes it seem like they're doing you a favor

  • 15. 
    How often do you and your partner have sex?
    • A. 

      3 or more times a week

    • B. 

      As often as possible

    • C. 

      Once a month

    • D. 

      About every three months

    • E. 

      Less than every six months

  • 16. 
    Do you fantasize about other people during sex with your partner?
    • A. 

      Never

    • B. 

      A few times

    • C. 

      Usually

    • D. 

      Almost always

    • E. 

      Always

  • 17. 
    Do you look forward to hearing about your partner's day?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      Most of the time

    • C. 

      Rarely

    • D. 

      No

    • E. 

      My partner never communicates about their day

  • 18. 
    How often does your partner make you laugh?
    • A. 

      Almost every day

    • B. 

      At least once a week

    • C. 

      Occasionally

    • D. 

      Never

    • E. 

      My partner isn't funny

  • 19. 
    How often does your partner share something really interesting with you?
    • A. 

      At least once a week

    • B. 

      Maybe a couple times a month

    • C. 

      Rarely

    • D. 

      Never

    • E. 

      My partner isn't interested in very much

  • 20. 
    • A. 

      Yes-We're about the same

    • B. 

      No, I usually have to seek intellectual stimulation elsewhere

    • C. 

      My partner feels intellectual superior but isn't

    • D. 

      One of us is more intellectual but we're comfortable with it

  • 21. 
    Do you and your partner have the same religious beliefs?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      No, but it isn't an issue

    • C. 

      No and occasionally causes disagreements

    • D. 

      No and is a common area of disagreement

  • 22. 
    In general, do both of you get along with other partner's family/in-laws?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      I do, but my partner doesn't like my family

    • C. 

      My partner does, but I don't

    • D. 

      Neither of us do

  • 23. 
    When you imagine growing old with your partner, does it make you feel happy?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      Somewhat, but I'll have plenty of friends to do things with

    • C. 

      No

    • D. 

      I don't know

  • 24. 
    • A. 

      No

    • B. 

      Sometimes I just wonder what people from previous relationships are doing these days, but I don't regret not being with them

    • C. 

      Yes-I either think about previous relationships often or am a regular flirt

  • 25. 
    Has your partner ever been physically abusive to you or you to your partner?
    • A. 

      Never

    • B. 

      My partner did once, but never again

    • C. 

      I did, but never again

    • D. 

      One or both of us is occasionally abusive

    • E. 

      One or both of us is regularly abusive

  • 26. 
    Do you ever question your sexuality (homosexual or hetrosexual)?
    • A. 

      No

    • B. 

      Sometimes

    • C. 

      Yes

    • D. 

      No, but sometimes I question my partner's sexuality

  • 27. 
    Is it easy to find topics to discuss when you and your partner are alone?
    • A. 

      Yes-We can talk about anything

    • B. 

      Usually one of us will have something to talk about

    • C. 

      It's usually difficult

    • D. 

      We don't talk much

    • E. 

      When one of us finds something to talk about the other person usually isn't interested

  • 28. 
    If you and your partner had to drive cross-country with no radio or other form of entertainment, how would you feel about the trip?
    • A. 

      Great-Quality time together

    • B. 

      Ok-It might get a little boring

    • C. 

      Dread

    • D. 

      No way-I would rather walk

  • 29. 
    Does your partner know how many lovers you've had in addition to this relationship?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      Approximately

    • C. 

      No-I could never be honest about it because of my partner's reaction

    • D. 

      No, but it's nobody's business but mine

  • 30. 
    Are there things you would like to change about your partner?
    • A. 

      No-Unconditional love means you love the other person with warts and all

    • B. 

      Yes, a few things

    • C. 

      Yes, I have a small list

    • D. 

      Yes, but I can't count how many

  • 31. 
    On vacation, do you and your partner have the same ideas about what a vacation should be?
    • A. 

      Yes

    • B. 

      For the most part

    • C. 

      No-One of us is go-go-go and the other just wants to lay around

    • D. 

      No

    • E. 

      I can't remember our last vacation