Identifying Your Parents' Parenting Style

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Identifying Your Parents

Everyday Feminism Your Parents' Parenting Style Quiz: Part of your default parenting style is the model your parents most often used during your childhood. Take this quiz to determine your parent(s) primary parenting style. (Please note, this quiz is not scientific and not designed for those who had abusive or neglectful upbringings. If your parent(s) parenting style make you feel feelings of great anger/loss/sadness you might want to talk to a licesned therapist. ) Please answer the following questions as related to your own upbringing by choosing the answer closest to your experience.


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    You are under 5 years old and you steal a candy bar from the store.  Your parent(s)
    • A. 

      Spank/yell/or punish you sternly. Make you apologize to the cashier and are forbidden candy for a month.

    • B. 

      Your parent pays for the candy saying "kids!" to the clerk and then gives you the candy bar.

    • C. 

      Your parent(s) explains how taking something that isn't yours makes the other person feel and discusses ways to make amends without any shame.

  • 2. 
    When you wrote on the walls with pen/marker/poop, your parent(s) would...
    • A. 

      Spank, Yell, or give me a stern time out as punishment

    • B. 

      Roll their eyes at you and clean it up themselves.

    • C. 

      Gently describe what they see and what needs to be done ("Looks like there is marker on the wall let's get a towel to clean it up.") Then discusses mutually agreeable ways to have fun writing/painting.

  • 3. 
    At dinner time you refuse to eat the meal prepared.  Your parent(s)
    • A. 

      You can't get up from the table until you've cleaned your plate.

    • B. 

      You can have whatever you want and after some whining mom makes you a different meal

    • C. 

      Want you to listen to your body's cues and don't make you eat. You have options for an array of healthy foods when you do feel hungry.

  • 4. 
    At a family function your parent(s)' expectation for behavior was...
    • A. 

      Children should be seen and not heard. Speak when spoken too and keep their manners at the table at all times

    • B. 

      You do what you want running amok, flinging food, etc. Your parent(s) smile and shrug.

    • C. 

      You are allowed to follow your needs but are reminded to think of other's needs to eat their meal, hear the conversation, etc.

  • 5. 
    As a child your parent(s) spanked you
    • A. 

      As the primary form of discipline

    • B. 

      Occasionally when your parent(s) reached their limit

    • C. 

      Never. Hands are not for hitting.

  • 6. 
    As a child when you misbehaved your parent(s)
    • A. 

      Showed strong disapproval

    • B. 

      Showed a resigned "kids will be kids" attitude

    • C. 

      Showed a positive attitude that it was an opportunity to learn and grow together as a family

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