I choose and make decisions for others.
I feel anxious, ignored, helpless, manipulated, angry at myself and/or others.
I feel confused, unclear on how to feel, I'm angry but not sure why. Later I sometimes feel guilty.
I choose and make decisions for me.
Other people see me as a pushover and that I don’t know what I want or how I stand on an issue.
I manipulate others to choose my way.
I am brutally honest.
I am sensitive and caring with my honesty.
If I get my own way, it is by chance.
If I don’t get my way I'll make snide comments or pout and be the victim.
Others view me in the exchange as angry, vengeful, distrustful and fearful.
I am direct.
I am self-respecting, self-expressive and straightforward.
I am direct and forceful.
Other people view me in an exchange as someone they need to protect themselves from and they fear being manipulated and controlled.
I am inhibited.
I convert win-lose situations to win-win ones.
I am self-enhancing and derogatory.
I tend towards indirectness with the air of being direct.
I allow others to choose and make decisions for me.
I am willing to compromise and negotiate.
I am emotionally dishonest.
I am self-enhancing but not straight forward about it.
Others feel humiliated, defensive, resentful and hurt around me.
Others feel guilty or superior and frustrated with me.
In win-lose situations I will make the opponent look bad or manipulate it so I win.
I'll participate in a win-lose situation only if I'll win.
I feel confident, self-respecting, goal-oriented, and valued. Later I may feel a sense of accomplishment.
Others feel valued and respected.
I demand my own way.
Others feel confused, frustrated, not sure who you are or what you stand for or what to expect next.
I am indirect and deny myself.
My underlying belief is that I should never make someone uncomfortable or displeased except myself.
I appear honest but underlying comments confuse the situation
I feel righteous, superior, and controlling; later I may feel guilty.
Others view me with respect, trust and understand where I stand.
The outcome is that others achieve their goals at my expense. My rights are violated.
My underlying belief is that I need to fight to be heard and respected. If that means I need to manipulate, be passive or aggressive, so be it.
My underlying belief system is that I have to put others down to protect myself
My underlying belief is that I have a responsibility to protect my own rights. I respect others, but not necessarily their behavior.