1.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like to receive encouraging or affirming notes
B. 
2.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like to spend one-to-one time with close friends
B. 
I feel loved when someone gives me practical help
3.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like it when people give me gifts
B. 
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones
4.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel loved when people do things to help me
B. 
I feel loved when people give me a reassuring hand shake or hug
5.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me
B. 
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I admire or love
6.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like to go places with friends or loved ones
B. 
I like to high-five or slap around with friends who are special to me
7.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
Visible symbols of love (such as gifts) are important to me
B. 
I feel loved when people affirm me
8.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around
B. 
I like it when people tell me I’m attractive/handsome
9.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like to spend time with friends and loved ones
B. 
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones
10.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
Words of acceptance are important to me
B. 
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me
11.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me
B. 
I like it when kind words are spoken to me
12.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
What someone does affects me far more than what they say
B. 
Hugs make me feel connected and valued
13.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I value praise and try to avoid criticism
B. 
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift
14.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together
B. 
I feel closer to friends & loved ones when we wrestle, hug or shake hands
15.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like for people to complement my achievements
B. 
I know people love me when they do things for me they don't enjoy doing
16.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like for people to cross the street to shake hands or hug when they see me
B. 
I like when people listen to me & show genuine interest in what I'm saying
17.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects
B. 
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones
18.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like for people to complement my appearance
B. 
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings
19.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel secure when a special person is physically close to me
B. 
Acts of service make me feel loved
20.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I appreciate the many things that special people do for me
B. 
I like to receive gifts that special people make for me
21.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention
B. 
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does some act to serve me
22.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift
B. 
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words
23.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I know a person is thinking of me when they give me a gift
B. 
I feel loved when a person helps me with my chores or tasks
24.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me
B. 
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift
25.
For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.
*if you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.
A. 
I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks
B. 
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me