What's Your Parenting Style?

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What type of parent are you? Are you strict? Are you uninvolved? Or maybe somewhere in between. . . Take this quiz now to find out!Arranged by Stella O'Malley, psychotherapist and author of the new parenting book 'Cotton Wool Kids: What's Making Irish Parents Paranoid? ' (published by Mercier Press) which is available from all good bookshops and online from https://www. Mercierpress. Ie/irish-books/cotton-wool-kids-/


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    Your five year old boy hits another child at a birthday party. You….. 
    • A. 

      Get annoyed with your child, he’s always causing trouble, and tell the other boy to hit him back

    • B. 

      Ignore the incident and just let them fight or play

    • C. 

      Tell him that it’s not right to hit people and make him apologise

    • D. 

      You don’t do other children’s birthday parties – they are the seventh circle of hell. You’re sure the person in charge would deal with it properly – that’s what they’re there for

    • E. 

      You immediately go over and intervene in the situation making sure both boys shake hands and make friends on the spot. You then ensure they play together nicely for the duration of the party.

  • 2. 
    Your seven year old boy has friends over on a play-date. They make a big mess in the playroom and then charge out to play outside.  You….. 
    • A. 

      Yell at them to come back in and clean up this mess now!

    • B. 

      let them off to enjoy themselves and clean it up yourself. They would only make a mess trying to clean up

    • C. 

      Help them clean up by making a game out of it

    • D. 

      You’re too busy to deal with it and so ignore it

    • E. 

      You call the children back in and oversee the tidy up process. You then supervise outside play until the end of the play-date

  • 3. 
     Your 11-year-old wants to buy an age inappropriate computer game which contains sexual images and graphic violence. All his friends have played it and he feels left out.  You… 
    • A. 

      Say ‘Absolutely not’.

    • B. 

      Let him buy it, we were all young once

    • C. 

      Say no but try to suggest another treat to make amends

    • D. 

      This is a minor issue; he is mature enough to play what he wants to play

    • E. 

      Your child knows not to ask for age-inappropriate games already

  • 4. 
    Your four year old boy is delaying bedtime by saying that he is hungry. You know he is hungry as he refused his dinner earlier.  You…
    • A. 

      Get immediately annoyed and send him to bed with no arguments

    • B. 

      Let him come downstairs and join you in supper, he’ll go to bed when he’s tired

    • C. 

      Let him have a quick snack, but make sure that it is purely functional and that there is no fun involved

    • D. 

      You get home late from work so this isn’t your area

    • E. 

      have a snack with him, explain to him in detail the cause-and-effect of not eating earlier, then bring him back to bed and read him a story relevant to the situation – you have a collection of books on hand that deal with children’s issues.

  • 5. 
    When your children avoid their chores you mostly 
    • A. 

      Get angry, shout, roar, and generally scare them into doing them

    • B. 

      Do them yourself – you do it better and it gets done quicker

    • C. 

      Give them a reminder that they must do their chores or suffer the clearly defined consequences

    • D. 

      They don’t have chores

    • E. 

      they don’t get the opportunity to avoid chores

  • 6. 
    When your toddler throws a tantrum in Tesco you mostly
    • A. 

      Get angry and throw a tantrum back

    • B. 

      Buy him sweets quick, anything to keep the peace

    • C. 

      Gnore him and after the tantrum show them better ways to express their frustrations

    • D. 

      Leave the vicinity, you’ve enough on your plate

    • E. 

      Immediately put in place the well-established process that follows a tantrum, it doesn’t matter where you are, who you’re with, or what you’re doing

  • 7. 
    Your 10 year old girl comes home with a note saying that she’s been in trouble in school saying that she had been cheeky to the teacher. You.. 
    • A. 

      Get mad and yell at her

    • B. 

      Try to ignore it, least said soonest mended

    • C. 

      Discipline her by removing privileges and later on have a chat with her explaining better choices she could have made so it doesn’t happen again

    • D. 

      Let the school deal with disciplinary matters; they’re paid enough to do their job

    • E. 

      Have a heart-to heart about the situation with your child. Call the school and make an appointment for the next day, this needs to be nipped in the bud immediately.

  • 8. 
    Your 8 year old boy wants a new toy at the supermarket, you…
    • A. 

      Don’t need to even say no, as he knows he won’t get it, a look should suffice

    • B. 

      Say no, but eventually relent and buy it so that he stays quiet for you to get the shopping done

    • C. 

      Tell him no in a firm voice, but promise that you will bring him back to buy it when he has saved enough of his pocket money

    • D. 

      Buy it

    • E. 

      Buy it if you feel it will improve him in some way. Then insist you both play it together when you get home as he needs to appreciate it when he is bought a treat.

  • 9. 
    The main goal of parenting and discipline is to…
    • A. 

      Get your kids to follow your instructions

    • B. 

      Make sure everyone is happy doing whatever they want

    • C. 

      Teach your children why rules are important and help them learn to make good choices on their own so that they can be happy and contribute to society

    • D. 

      bring the child into the world and help them succeed

    • E. 

      rear a child who adheres to your beliefs and values

  • 10. 
    How do you get your children out of bed on a school morning?
    • A. 

      The kids follow a well-established routine, and woe betide anyone who acts up!

    • B. 

      It’s generally a kind of chaotic series of cajoling and begging

    • C. 

      Usually the children follow the routine, however things can slip every so often; we’re all human!

    • D. 

      You try to miss the madness

    • E. 

      You are very well prepared with everything done the night before and you have a well-established routine so there is very little opportunity for things to go wrong. Fail to prepare, prepare to fail!

  • 11. 
    How do you manage your seven year old daughter’s homework? 
    • A. 

      She knows she has to do it straight away when she comes in from school. No arguments!

    • B. 

      Ike a nail slowly going down the blackboard; the homework generally gets done in the end but it requires a lot of patience and effort on your part

    • C. 

      She know she has to do her homework; you stay in the kitchen as she does it so you can help her with it if she needs help

    • D. 

      She does her homework in the after-care facility you use

    • E. 

      You supervise every aspect of the homework and ensure it’s done to a high standard – you sometimes give extra homework.

  • 12. 
    How do you view extra-curricular activities in your child’s life?
    • A. 

      The children attend certain activities whether they like them or not so as to teach them the merits of hard work and discipline.

    • B. 

      The children seem to take up and drop activities at an alarming pace but you do your best to keep up

    • C. 

      They are chosen with care and limited so as not to tire the children out

    • D. 

      The children love their extra-curricular activities – you’d all be lost without them

    • E. 

      You ensure that your children attend a wide range of extra-curricular activities that are chosen carefully with the aim of improvement and development

  • 13. 
    How is bed-time managed in your house?
    • A. 

      It goes very well actually. The children are all in bed, lights out by a set time.

    • B. 

      Total chaos reigns supreme

    • C. 

      There are certain rules, but sometimes the rules shift depending on circumstances

    • D. 

      you often miss the bedtime madness

    • E. 

      There is a strict schedule to follow in the evening, the kids have very little opportunity to act out as you keep a tight rein on the situation

  • 14. 
    Your pre-school daughter is continuously coming into your room at night wanting to get into your bed you…
    • A. 

      Get annoyed for waking you up and tell her to go back to bed

    • B. 

      Bring her into your bed and let her spend the rest of the night in with you

    • C. 

      Comfort her and help her go back to sleep in her own bed once she has calmed down

    • D. 

      Pretend to stay asleep

    • E. 

      You talk her through her fears and stay with her for the rest of the night. The next day you make sure you have a chat with her about what’s worrying her. You follow it up a few days later.