The Dance Made Visible

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The Dance Made Visible

Relationship Competence Quiz Love isn’t something you find, it is something that you create within a universal dance of relationship. Answer these 27 questions by reflecting on your current primary relationship, or if you are single, your last. This quiz should take you no more than 5 minutes. Do not dwell on your answers; go with your gut. They will help you to see the actions of a masterful dance.


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    I am aware of an abundance of love in my life.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      At times - not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      Sometimes

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 2. 
    I am comfortable walking into a party of strangers.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      At times - Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I make an effort

    • E. 

      I avoid it

  • 3. 
    I ask for what I want and am open to negotiation.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 4. 
    I accept declines to my requests with grace rather than argument or justification.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 5. 
    I hold people accountable for their promises.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 6. 
    I let others know in advance when I cannot fulfill my promises.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 7. 
    I am quick to apologize for my missteps.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 8. 
    I move in life with a sense of gratitude and let the people in my life know how much I appreciate them.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 9. 
    I hold no grudges, am generous with forgiveness.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 10. 
    I maintain balance in the presence of another's upset or anger.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 11. 
    I ask for critical feedback of how I could make life easier. 
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 12. 
    I am open and honest about my failures.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 13. 
    I allow for opinions that are different than mine without debate.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 14. 
    I am on time.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am often late

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 15. 
    I embrace conflict as the route to greater connectedness rather than avoid it.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 16. 
    I ask for and give complete honesty.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 17. 
    I fully trust my partner in their relationships with others.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 18. 
    I don’t beat myself up for past failures.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 19. 
    I deserve to be treated as a treasure and ask for it if I feel shortchanged.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 20. 
    I know that my standards are not others’ standards and do not negatively judge them for not meeting mine.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 21. 
    I maintain an even perspective when things are not working as I hoped.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 22. 
    I am generous with my time and resources and at the same time, I have boundaries.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 23. 
    I am comfortable sharing loving touch as a demonstration of care and affection.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      I try, but I am not confident

    • E. 

      Rarely

  • 24. 
    When I am in relationship, I am fully satisfied sexually.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

       Rarely

    • E. 

      Not at all

  • 25. 
    I seek new opportunities to demonstrate my love.
    • A. 

      Almost always

    • B. 

      Often

    • C. 

      Not as much as I would like

    • D. 

      Rarely

    • E. 

      Not at all