Have You Been The Victim Of A First Tier Runner Or Blocker?

You are sad/jealous/hurt, but you know that despite your intense connection you couldn't make it work

You don't really care, in retrospect you didn't really have that great a connection anyway

It doesn't really bother you, you know that he/she is only with that person because they couldn't deal with the intensity you shared with each other, you see the other person as your former partner's "safe option"

You are sad/jealous/hurt but know that he or she will have the same trouble in his/her new relationship because he/she could never fully accept or give love on a real level

You are sad/jealous/hurt, but you know that your partner will have the same trouble opening up to them, and most likely, your partner started dating them because they were just a "safe" alternative anyway

That your partner loved you with the same intensity that you loved them but you got the feeling that they were very uncomfortable with the level of connection you shared

That your partner's past relationships had been more intense than yours, and you could never really live up to that standard

That you and your partner were both intensely connected in a way your partner had perhaps never experienced but your partner could not express or accept the way they felt about you

That you and your partner were intensely connected and you both gave everything you could to the relationship but there just wasn't enough holding it together

That your partner loved you intensely but they could not let you in completely, and you always sensed that they were freaked out by the relationship

It ripped my heart out, we never even got a chance to explore the powerful connection we had

It was terribly sad, we had such an intense connection but couldn't overcome the other obstacles in the relationship

The ending was hard but, in retrospect, there was something wrong with the way we connected, we never really "got" each other

Frustrated! I sensed that we could have connected on a really deep level but he or she never let me in

Frustrated that my partner never opened up fully, and devestated that he/or she left so abruptly

Frequently negative regarding the future of your relationship, regardless of the fact that you were obviously crazy about each other, and often expressed such sentiments to each other

Self-protective and guarded, even though you instinctively felt that your partner was as in love with you as you were with them

Receptive, open and generous, except towards the end of the relationship, after many issues and resentments had accumulated

My partner's demeanor was not that important to me because I didn't feel intensly connected to him or her anyway

Negative about the future of the relationship, self-protective and guarded throughout, even though you sensed that a perfect connection lay just below the surface

Ended abruptly, without warning, and without a valid explanation, regardless of the fact that you and your partner still made each other extremely happy up until the end

Tapered off slowly after many discussions and attempts to save the relationship because you and your partner both knew that you had something rare that you may never find again

Ended abruptly or tapered off but in retrospect the connection was never really right

Was forced to end by you because your partner was never able to open up or fully connect with you on a deep level, even though you knew they loved you the same way you loved them

Ended upruptly, without explanation but you're partner would never fully let you in anyway so it was probably for the best

Feel the same essential connection to them, despite the years apart

Probably have nothing in common, or have much to say to each other, the connection you shared felt temporary

Feel the same essential connection to them but remember how hard it was to get them to open up to the special connection you shared

Feel the same essential connection to them but would realize that they aren't capable of sustaining an intense and real relationship

Feel the same essential connection but would know that the relationship was doomed and will never have a chance

Dear ________, I wish you hadn't left me, we had so much more to do and explore together, the possibilities were endless . . .

Dear ________, I am so glad we shared all that we did, I will probably never feel the same about someone else, I wish we could have made it work but we just had too many differences . . .

Dear ________, I know you felt as strongly about me as I did about you, I just wish that you could have let me in

Dear ________, it was good knowing you but I don't even feel like we connected very deeply. In fact, your memory is already fading.

Dear ________, I know you loved me but you never let me in, and then you just left without explanation