Are You A First Tier Blocker? If So, What Kind?

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Are You A First Tier Blocker? If So, What Kind?

A First Tier Blocker has never had a First Tier connection, not because they haven't met a First Tier yet, but because they are not capable of letting First Tier love into their lives. There are several types of Blockers: the Defensive blocker, the Priority Blocker, the Apathetic Blocker, and the Situational Blocker. The Defensive and Priority Blockers are fully capable of "unblocking," as is the Situational Blocker. The Apathetic Blocker, on the other hand, will likely never become unblocked, because they just don't care enough about having a First Tier connection to do the work. Please answer the questions honestly. Choose the best answer to each question.


Questions and Answers
  • 1. 
    MY IDEAL ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP IS ONE WHERE:
    • A. 

      I can connect deeply to another and let them into my world completely, spending as much time as I can with them

    • B. 

      I can spend time with my partner when I want to but they understand that my ____________ always comes first (mentally fill in the blank)

    • C. 

      Relationships are too much of a hassle, I prefer to be alone

    • D. 

      My partner doesn't push me to open up emotionally

    • E. 

      I can't imagine having a relationship right now

  • 2. 
    FALLING IN LOVE IS:
    • A. 

      Scary, I don't like to lose control

    • B. 

      I don't know, I've never really been in love

    • C. 

      Great, as long as the feeling doesn't cause me to lose sight of what's important to me or distract me from other areas of my life (work, family, etc.)

    • D. 

      Amazing! no other feeling in the world compares. It's what I am always seeking

    • E. 

      The most amazing thing in the world, and is something I cherish so I hope to be able to let love in again, as I did in the past

  • 3. 
    AS A CHILD, I:
    • A. 

      Felt loved and deeply connected to one or both of my parents

    • B. 

      Felt like affection and acceptance were withheld from me by either my mother or father, or both

    • C. 

      Was taught that career or financial success was the most important thing. I had to take care of myself, because no-one else would do it for me

    • D. 

      Never got really attached to anyone, including my parents, friends, pets, etc.

    • E. 

      My childhood hasn't really affected my ability to love negatively so it is puzzling that I can't seem to connect at this time in my life

  • 4. 
    AFTER MY LAST, OR MOST SIGNIFICANT RELATIONSHIP ENDED, I:
    • A. 

      Will never open myself up again the way I did

    • B. 

      Will make sure that I find a partner who is independent enough so that he or she doesn't demand too much of my time and energy

    • C. 

      Will always look for the same kind of connection that I had and will settle for nothing less

    • D. 

      Got over it quickly, I've never been deeply upset by the ending of any relationship. There's usually another one rignt around the corner

    • E. 

      Was really crushed and now I find myself unable to connect, which makes me very sad

  • 5. 
    IT'S A DEAL BREAKER WHEN:
    • A. 

      My potential partner won't open themselves up and has no interest in knowing me deeply

    • B. 

      My potential partner wants to spend too much time with me, at the expense of other areas of my life

    • C. 

      My potential partner gets to close and wants to know too much about my emotional life

    • D. 

      My potential partner wants anything more than a temporary, physical connection

    • E. 

      Nothing's a deal breaker in particular, I just can't open up right now

  • 6. 
    I START TO FREAK OUT IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN:
    • A. 

      The other person wants to know more about my past or my deepest feelings

    • B. 

      I don't get freaked out, my relationships never get that intense

    • C. 

      I don't get freaked out because I would only be with someone if I felt really connected to them and felt like they already knew me

    • D. 

      The other person starts to take up too much of my time and distracts me from other areas of my life

    • E. 

      It reminds me of past relationships where I felt very connected to my partner

  • 7. 
    WHEN I MEET SOMEONE WHO I COULD POTENTIALLY CONNECT DEEPLY WITH, I:
    • A. 

      Worry about how I will be able to fit the relationship into my busy life

    • B. 

      Am excited and grateful that I found someone who gets me

    • C. 

      Worry that the person will get too close and find out how vulnerable I am

    • D. 

      Have never felt like I could connect deeply

    • E. 

      Cannot connect deeply with anyone at this point in my life, although I have in the past, and think I want to in the future

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