Content Blogger, Diploma in Journalism, Amsterdam, Netherlands
Answered on Feb 07, 2019
Just because it’s flattering to be offered sex on the first date, and just because you can, doesn’t mean that you should. You probably shouldn’t. This isn’t a moral judgement. There’s nothing immoral about sex so long as both parties have consented, and neither has been deceptive about their ultimate intentions. However, things can go wrong. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but sex on a first date is usually not great.
There are a few things at play here. Probably, you've been drinking. That can affect performance in a number of ways. Neither of the participants knows each other very well. That means you don't know what the other person likes in bed and they don't know what you like. If it's a one-night stand, that's fine, but don't expect absolute romance, if you're looking for it too quickly It's not pleasant, but the truth is sex on a first date is more likely to be the kind of sex where the lines between consent and its absence get blurred.
It might not be Voilation necessarily, but it's far from simply underwhelming sex. It would be best to have a strong relationship.
It will depend on you and what you want to get from the date. There are some who have sex on the first date because these two people just feel that they are right for each other. There are some who have sex on the first date because they want to feel loved. If this is your reason too, you may want to lie low a bit.
You will not find love when you allow people to have sex with you. Feelings will develop through the connection that you have with each other. There are still some men who will respect women more when they are harder to reach. Women who are easy-to-get might turn off a lot of men.