It’s common to be differences in sexual desire between a couple. Though it is hard to have your sexual advances rejected repeatedly without taking it personally, you need to remind yourself that a partner's lack of interest in sex just may not be about you, your attractiveness or your qualities as a human being.
A hormone deficiency or other physiological problems or feelings are reasons that must be recognized. You do want things to change, but have empathy for your loved one as well. Given the choice, he or she would prefer to feel turned on easily. It's not easy to feel disinterested in something your partner thrives on.
He or she may feel inadequate. You may feel hurt, but acknowledge how painful it is for your partner. Even if he or she acts defensively, your partner probably spends lots of time thinking why things aren't easier between you. You should make room to be understanding.
It should be remembered that not all couples are sexually compatible with each other. There are some that are lucky because their partners can match their own sex drive. For couples who have different sex drives and libidos, they should learn how to compromise especially if they want to make the marriagework.
They may become more open about it to each other. They may want to discuss what things will increase their sex drive and what actions will not. The more that they know about each other, the more that they can think about how they can reach a compromise regarding sex.