We all know the benefits of being self-confident and be it personal or professional life, confidence always helps in performing well. Due to your confidence level, you might get noticed, applauded for your work, and accomplish your tasks etc. In short, you can achieve whatever you want in our life, making you a more successful person. At last, you might be the happiest person in the world.
Now, the problem arises, how to build and boost your confidence? This problem is faced by most people of the world as they don’t know the actual tactic to increase their confidence level in the very moment.
Here are some of the key strategies to develop your self-confidence:
Acknowledge Your Personal Strength: This doesn’t mean you should ignore your imperfections, but you need to focus more on your strengths rather than thinking about your negativities. Start appreciating yourself for doing good work on a daily basis. Think what makes you stand apart, and unique from others and trust me, doing this will definitely bring confidence in you to some extent.
Start Looking For Positivity In Others: When you will start looking only at positivity in others, ignoring their negative side at that period of time, you learn to appreciate others for their achievements and accomplishments. Please don’t misunderstand it with false flattery.
Be An Optimistic Not Pessimistic: Always try to see positivity in every situation. It will not give you the exact solution, but you might be able to cope with your problems to some extent.
Also, you can Play This Quiz To Check How Confident You Are?
The Dunning-Kruger effect is defined as the failure to assess self-efficacy by a person for specific tasks.
The DK effect affects almost everyone at some point in their lives. The extent of the Dunning-Kruger effect on a person as measured by David Dunning in test cases involve tests of humor, grammar, and logic. The results found that people lacking in these fields grossly misjudged the scores of their performances. DK effect is a form of illusory superiority and a consequence of it.
Basically, people lack the common sense to estimate their own ability. They feel that their ability to do tasks is better than what it really is. Hence, such people overestimate their own ability. On the other end of the spectrum, people with higher intelligence feel that others are also as intelligent as them. They underestimate themselves and overestimate others (False Consensus Bias).
The underlying cause of the DK effect is debated. There are two schools of thought on this. According to Dunning and Kruger, the cause is a metacognitive flaw or the wrong perspective of their knowledge and character. Some authors have said that irrational optimism or ego might be the reason for this. The researchers have also found that when told about their ‘flaws’, some people improved their scores meaning their competency increased but there were people whose beliefs in themselves increased and they became even more incompetent than they already were.
Competent people, on the other hand, suffer from the False Consensus Bias. Intelligent people have an estimate as to how knowledgeable they are but fail at estimating other people’s knowledge. Simply speaking, they think that what’s easy for them is also easy for other people. This is known as the False Consensus Bias.
Two quotes can sum up the Dunning-Kruger Effect very easily.
Stupid people are too stupid to know that they are stupid.
The wise man knows that he knows nothing.
Complementary means to “to enhance or emphasize the qualities of each other or another”. Synonyms for complementary include harmonious, compatible, and matching. So by this description I would say no, low confidence and low self-esteem are not complementary to each other. They are however related in that a feeling of low self-confidence can lead to anxiety.
For example, if you are self-conscious or concerned about your weight or appearance, you may be anxious about attending a social situation. The reverse is also true. If you are anxious about attending a social situation it will not help your self-esteem because you may feel disappointed in yourself which can impact or potentially worsen your self-esteem.
No I do not believe all confident people are arrogant, in fact I think the opposite may be true. Arrogant people sometimes act arrogant in order to hide their insecurity, inferiority, and a lack of confidence. In other words, it’s a way for people with low confidence to protect their own egos and prevent them from being hurt by others.
Demonstrating arrogance is also sometimes a way for people to get attention and gain approval from others to help build up their self-confidence. Unfortunately in doing so, they often treat others badly.
MBTI is an abbreviation for Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator. Basically it’s a personality test that results in sixteen different four letter codes for a personality. The MBTI code or personality that will tend to have the highest amount of confidence is probably the personality type ENTJ which stands for Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Judging. This personality code has been nicknamed “The Commander”.
The seven common ENTJ traits are: natural born leader, lives in a world of possibilities, project-oriented, logical and thoughtful, a bit of a perfectionist, well-developed communication skills, and of course, self-confident and sure of themselves and their abilities.
It is probably safe to say that some people with anxiety do have low confidence because psychologists and psychiatrics believe there is a relationship between the two. Some feelings of anxiety are normal, such as worrying about speaking in front of a crowd, or worrying about how others might judge you in a social setting.
However, if anxiety begins to significantly interfere in your everyday life, it’s best to seek treatment. If you find yourself feeling anxious about a particular situation, try to remember a time when you did feel confident and that might help you feel a little less anxious
There are many ways you can tell the difference between a confident person (CP) and an over-confident person (OCP). Here are just a few. A CP will recognize their imperfections and work to improve themselves; an OCP thinks they’re perfect. A CP will offer to help others because they believe they have something of value to offer; an OCP expects others will fail without their help.
A CP will also accept help from others; an OCP doesn’t really want any help because they think they know it all. A CP knows failure is possible and will take responsibility for their actions; an OCP will never admit failure and will blame others if there is a failure.
You can help another person to feel more confident by avoiding criticizing, blaming, or shaming them. Almost everyone will say something during an argument that will hurt another’s feelings and shake their confidence. For example, your husband may say something like, “You’re just like your mother and you’ll end up alone and lonely if you don’t change your ways.” You can also help by not trying to change your partner. This is so much easier to say than it is to do. And it goes together with not criticizing, blaming and shaming.
Unfortunately, we often criticize when we want someone to change. For example, you might tell your husband, “You’re such a slob. Why can’t you put your dishes in the sink (or dishwasher) instead of leaving them for me to clean-up?!” And, most importantly, find ways to offer praise, gratitude, and appreciation for the other person’s general qualities, rather than particular accomplishments.
No dumb people are not necessarily the most confident but they do often appear confident. I think it’s because they are often too dumb to understand the subtle differences and facts regarding topics and issues. It’s probably not fair to call them dumb. It would be better to describe them as uneducated. They just don’t have enough knowledge to know that they’re often wrong.
They confuse opinions with facts and either can’t or won’t read or can’t really comprehend what they read. A good example of people in this category are President Donald J. Trump supporters and Trump himself.
Insecurity can most definitely have an effect on confidence but I think it depends on how much you dwell on the insecurity. It’s perfectly normal to feel insecure from time to time but if you focus on it too much, you will negatively impact your confidence. One way to not dwell on insecurity is to write down the things you feel insecure about and then objectively analyze them, one at a time, if necessary.
Insecurity has a lot to do with uncertainty and if you can come up with solutions to remove or lessen the impacts of the uncertainties, you can take actions to feel better and improve your confidence.