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Possible reason for unhappy, failing marriages
lack of preparation given to the MARRIAGE
You CANNOT afford to
not PREPARE for marriage
•Positive effects of Marriage:
-Lead a healthier lifestyle-Live longer-Satisfying sexual relationship-More wealth/ economic...
Formula for a successful marriage
· Both partners are friends · ...
Single best predicter of a successful marriage:
Expressing oneself assertively
-Eliminate games-Get comfortable taking care of you-Request vs. demand
Positive Reasons to Marry
-Companionship-Love/intimacy-Supportive partnership-Sexual partnership-Sharing parenthood
Negative Reasons to Marry
-Pregnancy-Rebellion against parents-Independence-Rebounding from relationship-Family/social...
Effective Premarital Program includes
-Premarital inventory i.e. Prepare/Enrich-training in communication/problem-solving...
Characteristics best predicting a happy marriage:
•Realistic attitudes•Satisfaction with the personality of our partner•Enjoy communicating...
One of the major reasons new couples have difficulty adjusting is because
they are idealistic
-Highest level of satisfaction in ALL aspects of marriage-High in communication/conflict resolution-Older/more...
-Second most satisfied-Moderately high scores when assessing marital satisfaction-More educated/higher...
-High scores in areas of children/parenting, equal roles and religion-Agreed religion is important...
-Moderately low scores overall except higher in equalitarian roles/religion-Problems communicating/solving...
-Lowest scores of all-Pervasive unhappiness in all areas of marriage-More likely to be separated-88%-one...
process of raising children from infants to adults who will provide continuity within the family...
Myths of Parenthood:
-Children will turn out well if they have “good” parents-Parenthood receives top priority...
Top 5 parenting issues with Couples
1. Having children reduces marital satisfaction2. Father not involved enough with children3....
Transition to Parenthood
-Changes one’s whole world-Some experience disenchantment-Increased level of stress-Couple...
Cost of raising a child- birth to age 17
-Lower income family cost for one - $130,290 ...
Cost of children
-Clothe a child to age 18 = $22,063 -Girls>boys-Keep...
Parental Support includes:
-closeness -cohesion -affection
Parental Power includes:
-rules -discipline -flexibility
Level of support/control parents exercise impacts
the child socially, psychologically, and academically
When parenting is too lenient (chaotic) or too strict (rigid) there are
more problems with overall psychological adjustment of the child/adolescent
Children with more balanced amount of parental control tend to
have higher self-esteem, more friends, greater affection for parents and more satisfaction...
5 Parenting Styles
Democratic, Authoritarian, Permissive, Rejecting, Uninvolved
-Parents establish clear rules/expectations and discuss with child-Parents acknowledge child’s...
Children in the democratic style
-“energetic-friendly”-Self reliant-Cheerful-Copes well with stress -Achievement oriented
-Parents establish rigid rules and expectations and strictly enforce them-Parents expect and...
Children in the authoritarian style
-"conflicted-irritable”-Moody-Unhappy-Vulnerable to stress-Unfriendly
-Parents let the child’s parents take priority over their own ideals rarely enforce child...
Children in the permissive style
-Exhibit “impulsive-aggressive” behavior-Rebellious-Domineering-Under-achieving ...
-Parents do not pay much attention to the child’s needs-Leaves child feeling uncared for...
Children in the rejecting style
-Often immature-Often have psychological problems
-Parents ignore child-Lets child’s preferences prevail as long as they don’t interfere...
Children in uninvolved style
-Societal definition = between 35 and 65-Philosophically begins when you begin to think about...
The Biggest Challenge for middle age men
-How to thrive (or even survive) in the working world while maintaining family connections-Feel...
Middle-aged women returning to work after long absence places them at a disadvantage because:
-Experience discrimination-Employs demean a woman’s talent-Doesn’t realize her competency...
Sexual activity declines some in the middle ages because:
of stress and boredom
For those who are creative and commited
sex can remain pleasurable during the middle ages
Most-dramatic age-related change in female reproductively functioning, after puberty
the end of a woman's ability to have children
Top Causes for Midlife Divorce for Women
-Verbal, physical, emotional abuse-Alcohol or drug abuse-Cheating
Top Causes for Midlife Divorce for Men
-No obvious problems, simply fell out of love-Cheating-Different values, lifestyles
Strengthening Marriage in the Middle Years
-Establish priorities early-Look for Warning Signs -Nagging,...
Empty Next syndrome
-Feelings of depression, emptiness or lack of purpose some parents feel when their kids leave...
a more positive term for empty nest
-1 in 4 (27%) of all 18-24 year-olds live with parents -Adult children return home to live...
Group of adults caught in the middle- raising their own children but having to also care for...